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it sounds like a good idea, but in the long-term, the relationship flounders if that's all you're doing.

Conclusions (Guidelines):

1. don't seek out love or relationships, let it happen by accident.
2. online dating might work, but it is unnatural and seems like an excuse to be lazy.
3. be open, warm and friendly.
4. flirt, tease and play! :D
5. interact with lots of people.  maximize your potential by going where targets are likely to be.
   
6. participate in group things you like.  (if you like religion, church.)
7. be friends first.
8. wait, wait, wait as long as you can.
9. dating interviews suck, just go with the flow.
10. don't date just to date as sport or to trap someone in a relationship for your needs.
11. go with safe, real and attainable.
12. dont dish out or accept nonsense.
13. observe if the person is looking out for you, and if you're looking out for them.
14. no expectations.
15. tell the truth.
16. after a month or so, discuss goals openly.
    
17. one at a time.
18. if it looks like it's going south, give it one or two more tries, then bail out.
19. it's right when you're the most comfortable.
20. love obliterates all "rules."

sorry mom, that laundry ball filled with blue-colored water is no substitute for a water-softener (cation exchange).  britta pitchers are a waste of $$.  reverse osmosis water filtration and distillers rule, but at the expense of fluoride.  my guess is that toothpaste and running tap water replace it well enough.  consider a whole-house carbon filter too.  :)   did i mention the huge difference of taking a shower with soft-water?  (most people have never experienced such a simple pleasure.) 

there's little correlation between price and quality because consumers are mostly ignorant.  just ask my grandfather or VEN 3 professor.

fyi: there's a really cool wine bar in SF, but i'm not going to tell, lest it be ruined.  no wining.  ;)

Respect is not earned, it's learned.  Call it "The Golden Rule for the 21st Century." 

1. Treat people with respect by giving them what they want with the least hassle.
2. Make them feel comfortable and welcomed.
3. Assume trust until proven otherwise.
   
4. Make people aware of their nonsense in an indirect, plausibly deniable manner.
5. Grace under pressure.  Don't react.  Instead, be unexpectedly nice in a pleasant way.

By cutting corners these days, people forget their manners.

1. If a meeting is scheduled, keep it.
2. Be on time.
3. Don't be lazy.
4. Don't make assumptions.
5. Don't use electronic means as a form of change notification, because it's asynchronous and might be missed.  Some people only check their email once or twice a day.
   
6. Pick up the phone.
7. Confirm appointments.
8. Stuff happens, but don't make up post-hoc excuses.
9. Table manners.
10. Turn signals.

Be cool, daddy-o.

1. Vote, Learn and Get Involved! - Details matter.  set up a complete hierarchy of specialized working groups of non-partisan citizen advisory boards to become versed in specific topics and generate public policy reports.  Greatly incentivize participation! 
2. Corporate Political Influence - return to high standards of integrity and accountability.  no more closed door meetings *except* for geopolitical/military methods, issues and strategy.   secrecy is often used as a tool to hide questioning and sometimes impropriety.
   
3. Depoliticization of Issues - red/blue, rep/dem nonsense is irrelevant.  put ego aside, listen to the experts, get the job done.
4. Bush - not a complete idiot, a good team leader, but a poor, unintellectual leader.
5. Military - without it, say hello to the wild west and dark-ages.  It's not the size or strength that is the problem, it's the arguably unnecessary capital expenditure.  maybe it's sabre rattling to show china and india, "we're still top dog, you're not in charge, yet."
6. Universal Health Care - universal disastrous coverage needs to be implemented
7. Social Security - people are not saving enough for their future to be sustainable.
8. Mental Health Care - it was destroyed in the 80's, unintentionally.  it's horrid.  see the issue #9.
9. Prison System Reform - how a civilization treats its most unfortunate members...  untreated warehouse for #8.  drug addicts need treatment.
10. Tax Law - automatically compute withholding / refund for the majority of tax payers with opt-out option.
11. Affordable Housing - impossible without market intervention.  suggest building mega apartment blocks like tokyo.  single-family homes are a luxury and not attainable for all in high-value areas.  folks have to face facts: either move or continue working three jobs, seven days a week.
12. National Health Improvement Plan (NatHIP) - incentives for prevention.  smoking cessation, diet, exercise.  phase-out of the tobacco industry.
13. Sustainable Energy for the Future (SEF)- Hybrid vehicles are not a cost-effective solution.  Research and incentives for investment in the hydrogen economy (which is merely for transmission, not an ultimate source of fuel).  subsidize fusion power research.  bring back nuclear power (i know first-hand the nuclear power industry is heavily, heavily regulated.  the people at the NRC, EPRI and in the industry really, really care about safety.  Most live in these same communities too!).
14. Reduce Job Turn-Over, Improve Training and Schooling - help employees and employers.  not a law, but a specific set of policies aimed at hiring and retaining qualified employees, working with universities and human resource field to create sustainable career tracks.  this saves everyone money.  keep up with industry trends and shifting focus.  nationally recognize training and certification paths for job advancement.  bring back tradeschools and apprenticeships.  deemphasize any college degree as the only path to a good job.  i can, for example, without a high-school education, attain a certain technology certification and make six-figures.  (cisco ccie)  create another degree level beyond doctorate.
    
15. Work/Life Balance, Unpaid Overtime - what's fair is fair.  pay overtime for salaried employees working over 50 hours per week.
16. Community - a dream more than a policy.  try this: introduce yourself to your neighbors three doors away in all directions.  not later, not tomorrow, dont look at the calendar.  today, right now.  invite them over for a bbq or dinner.  talk about something you have in common.  agree to keep an eye on each other's kids.  all the stuff people used to do.
17. Bureaucratic Efficiency - reduction of paper forms to online.  standardization.  training workers uniformly.  merit-based bonuses.  uniform performance reviews.  uniform appeals process for every process.  random, unannounced, blue-ribbon inspections and deep audits.  suggest the media become involved in exposing waste and corruption, large and small.

How's that for a start?

There is no illusion, progress requires wisdom, leadership, teamwork, effort, vigilance and patience.

Sydney.

Düsseldorf.

Tokyo.